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It can be tempting, when things aren’t going as planned, to try controlling everyone around you. This is a road to disaster – ESPECIALLY at home.
A house like a well-oiled machine?
Ideally, you’d be happy if your home life were flawless. You want chores to be done seamlessly: dinner should be scheduled without a hitch, and everyone should pitch in on chores. Unfortunately, that rarely happens in the real world.
Real life is messy. It’s confusing and chaotic and unpredictable, with hundreds of unexpected variables that could be hurled your way at any time. While you can certainly introduce a bit of structure to your world (a chore list, perhaps), you aren’t going to be able to control everything.
Whether you’re labelling all your food and leaving notes around the house in a passive-aggressive rage, or busy turning the cleaning rota into an impenetrable labyrinth (think color-coded systems detailed enough to resemble rainbows), the cold hard truth is that it’s not worth alienating friends and family over an unwashed plate.
You’re only trying to help, but you’re causing more harm
Of course, what micromanaging does to the people around you is only part of the equation—it also causes a great deal of undue stress for you.
“Most of us like a clean house,” writes Sharon Rivkin of Hitchmag,”but if it consumes your every thought and behavior, pay attention because you’re probably driving your household and yourself crazy.”
Take a step back, breathe, and relax
I’ve known my fair share of micromanagers, and many of them have one thing in common: they’re dealing with more than a little ingrained anxiety. The trick to dealing with micromanagement is to recognize when you’re feeling anxious and know when you need to take a step back and relax. Find an activity that soothes you, and lose yourself in it. Or, if all else fails, consider therapy.